Workshop for Woman partners of sex addicts

Saturday 15 June 2013  10.30am to 12noon

3rd Floor, Trelawny House, Surrey Street, Bristol BS2 8PS

Gary McFarlane  0786 609 7247

£30

Email: gary.g.mcfarlane@blueyonder.co.uk

Website: www.sexaddictiontreatment.co.uk

Highly confidential – for women partners ONLY of sex addicts             Pre-registration is essential for admission.

Partner or wife of a Judge, a solicitor, a Barrister, an Accountant, a teacher, an IT Consultant, a utilities operator, a facilities manager, a HR Personnel, a company Director, an Actor. Whichever of these male personnel to whom you are in relationship with, sex addiction can have its tentacles into your relationship with them and leave you carrying a very heavy burden, with few people there for you to talk to about this world which has taken a toll on your relationship and continues to undermine it.

Will it ever get better? Can he really stop the behaviours? Will I ever be able to trust him again? How do I know the children are safe? How do I compete with that stuff? Was it my fault or did I contribute? Was I not enough or good enough? How could I have been so stupid? How is it that I did not heed the signs that I now look back on and can see them?

What do I do now? Do I really believe there is such a thing as sex addiction? Isn’t it just greed for more sex? What a nightmare? Where can I turn for help? What if people find out? How can I bear to carry this on my own? What about the children?

I am scared to join some form of women’s group. Their problems are not like mine. What if it gets out. My husband won’t agree to me attending a group. He is getting his help, but I have to hold on in there and not tell anyone in case.

It’s just not right. It’s just not fair. This is my life. He has ruined it. What am I going to do?

 Gary McFarlane, is a Mediator, Relationship Counsellor, sex therapist, sex Addiction therapist & love Addiction therapist.

A past career as a Solicitor of some 25 years equips him well with the dynamics of understanding and balancing confidentiality at a high level, with discretion, tact and discipline.

Women partners of sex addicts are frequently overlooked when it comes to treatment regimes – which typically focus on the man. Here is an introductory, highly confidential workshop for women ONLY to consider just some of the issues raised about – if you are able to put some trust in this facility which is there for you to get the help you need.

Call me for a chat.

Why group? You will face the strongest of resistance about getting involved. Many women will, however, testify to the fact that joining a group was the best outcome for their recovery. Why? The relief that other progressive, “got it all together women” are similarly affected! There is immediate shame reduction when you see normal, every day women facing the very same issues. Remember “Shame” is the base for keeping the men’s addiction firmly in place and shame will similarly keep you from the group.


Sex addiction might become formally recognised as a psychiatric disorder and therefore accessible for funding through the NHS and private medical insurance. It is a condition which is increasingly being treated by therapists skilled in this area of practice. Those who are addicted know all too well the mental health toll which an addiction can take.

The NHS does not currently recognise sex addiction as a condition for which NHS resources are made available in its own right.

The American Psychiatric Association (APA) is the body which updates the definitive guide to what constitutes a genuine psychological disorder rather than an imaginary one. Their decision as to whether it will be classified is awaited. Watch this space!!

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WHAT MAY BE BRISTOL’S FIRST WOMEN PARTNER’S SUPPORT/THERAPY GROUP IS DUE TO BE LAUNCHED BY GARY IN FEBRUARY 2012. HIGHLY CONFIDENTIAL IN ITS COMPOSITION, IT IS WHAT MANY MANY PARTNERS HAVE WANTED FOR A LONG TIME.

CONTACT GARY FOR FURTHER DETAILS.

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Partners information pack

Female partners of Sex Addicts – receive your “Partner’s information pack” by sending to me a request by email.