Individuals or Couples
Individuals or Couples
Loss of Desire – “I know I should want to, but I can’t muster the desire. Is there something wrong with me? I don’t really miss it that much. What’s all the hype?”
“Had the babies, got the man, lost interest in Sex. What’s going on?”
Lack of Orgasm – “I’m told I will know it when I do, but I don’t. May be I have; perhaps not; guess I can’t; did I miss it. The earth didn’t move for me! What I have is ok, but I am curious if I am missing something else”
Erectile Disorder – “This is a big deal; don’t know what to do; what else to try. My mind says I do want to, but my body just won’t respond. The harder I and we try the more pressure causes it to subside and wane away before I can…I have read that it is very common, but that ain’t making me feel better. Viagra not always a long term fix. ” Can my medication have something to do with it? I am only on diabetes and hypertension medication.
Vaginismus/Unable to penetrate – “It hurts so much when he tries to enter me. I want him to, but it just won’t go in. I try to relax, but we fail. It’s taking a toll on the relationship. I can understand how he feels. It’s my problem. I need to sort it, don’t I.”
Sex in age – not just for a younger generation then. Help us to understand what changes. What improves!
Pain during intercourse/Dyspareunia – Make the pain go away. I love him, but…
Sex and disability – so we can then! We certainly do. But there are differences. We are inventive!
Premature Ejaculation – It finishes oh so quickly. I feel for him; but it has left me high and dry and frustrated for so long. What can we do? We have tried lots of things, but nothing lasts for long and the problem still returns. What is it we are not doing? Will it be like this for life? Is it me and caused by my excesses in younger life?”
Female Ejaculation – Nonsense! Women don’t ejaculate. If they did, what would it be? I know a girlfriend that does. She says it’s the best thing. Can I experience it?
G-spot orgasm – Fact of fiction? Different types of orgasms, fact or fiction. Multiple orgasms, fact or fiction; squirting, is it pee or other fluid, fact or fiction. It happens to me, normal or is there something wrong with me. Can I do that? Should I be doing that? Is that what is being called female ejaculation?”
Consummation – We know we are suppose to know, but we don’t. How do we do it – have sexual intercourse that is? My marriage was arranged, we were both so lacking in knowledge and information.
Pre-marriage Preparation – We have decided to wed. We know that it makes sense for us to talk things over with a knowledgeable person. What does this entail? We want to make love last for ever.
Masturbation – “or is it self-pleasuring? Therapeutic or unwanted? Does it have a place in our relationship?”. I caught him doing it. I was so hurt. I could understand why he would need to. I felt…”
Sexual Addictions – Does it really exist or is it better described as a healthy interest in sex, more than most? I caught him viewing porn on the internet. I caught her in a chat room and the things they were saying was very suggestive. I found stuff on his mobile phone that undermined my trust. I find myself wanting to check his phone and phone bills and look at the logs on his PC.”
Singles/Couples – “so it’s not just for couples then. I can get counselling and sex therapy for me alone as a single person.”
“Learning that most women experience a decline in sexual drive after the passing of that early ‘in love’ stage of a relationship came as a great relief to many couples, defusing the anger and confusion many had been experiencing”Bettina Arndt
Relationship Counselling and Sex Therapy
Models of counselling styles offered include: EMDR, Transactional Analysis, Pyschodynamic, Systemic and CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) from a relationship counsellor, sex therapy (psychosexual therapy), sex addiction & love addiction therapy.
Do you want counselling from a Christian perspective? Then do contact me.
Counselling available online via Skype and VSee, or face to face in the South West.